What is sex therapy?

Due to demand, we are unable to take on new clients until November 2021

Psychosexual therapy or sex therapy is counselling specifically for those who are having sexual difficulties. Sex can be a difficult subject to talk about, and unfortunately within our culture talking about sexual problems with our family and friends can be taboo (although we are often tempting to let people know when things are going really well). This can often make us feel very isolated and lonely, however, sex therapists are trained counsellors who understand how difficult this can be.

I believe people are capable of making great changes but sometimes a bit of help is needed, and being able to talk openly about what is troubling you is the best place to start. Often people find sex therapy extremely refreshing and a huge relief, as it gives an opportunity to talk about things that we feel we must keep secret. To feel that you are being heard and seen by someone who understands how difficult sex and relationships can be is extremely powerful and brings about great healing. My style of therapy is to work in whatever way suits you best.

Sometimes it is important to look at childhood, especially for those who are experiencing compulsive sex and porn issues, or it might be that we concentrate on the here and now if the presenting problem is erectile dysfunction brought on by recent stress. Whatever your circumstances, you will always be met with honesty, compassion and a desire to help you work through your sexual or relationship difficulties.

Where are you in your life right now? You may be divorced, widowed, recently engaged, recently become a parent, or at the beginning of a new and exciting relationship. You may have not been in a relationship for a long while. Your life may be satisfying or pretty difficult.

All of us, where ever we are in life, have an emotional need for closeness, intimacy, relationship and sexual gratification. You may be reading this and thinking “I don’t need a man/woman to make me happy” and whilst I would agree no other person can make you happy, humans need connection. Whilst for most of us, our emotional needs are more important that sexual gratification, sometimes sexual difficulties, such as loss of sexual interest or difficulty in having an orgasm can disrupt that emotional connection we are wanting to experience with others (or sometimes in the case or orgasm, with ourselves).

For those of you who are single, it may be important to explore the nature of your sexual difficulty and how this relates to past or future relationships. Sex is all around but very rarely discussed in a meaningful and healthy way, that allows you to explore exactly what sex means to you, the type of sex you want and how you are going to get it.

Entering into sex therapy or attending one of my workshops (both of which are talking only) can help you to make a start.